This checklist walks through everything you need to get the most out of Cupla — from the essentials of getting set up with your partner, to the optional steps that fine-tune Cupla to your relationship. Steps marked Essential are the must-dos. Steps marked Optional are nice-to-haves that take Cupla from working to working well.

Work through them in order. Once you're set up, come back to the Optional steps any time.

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Detailed instructions for each step are below.

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Download Cupla from the Apple App Store or Google Play Store and create your account. You can only create a new account in the mobile app, not on Desktop.

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Most of Cupla's value comes from being connected with your partner. Send them an invite from the app to sync your accounts.

See How do I sync with my partner? and What does my partner need to do to connect with me?

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Passkeys give you a faster, more secure way to sign in than passwords. Worth setting up early so you don't have to think about it later.

See What are Passkeys and why should I use them?

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Connect the calendars you already use (Google, Outlook, Apple). Cupla will show your schedule and your partner's side by side.

See Choosing what calendars to sync to Cupla and What is the difference between Direct Connect and Device Calendars?

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Add your Cupla calendar to Google Calendar, Apple iCal, or Outlook so shared events and date nights also show up alongside the calendars you already check throughout the day.

See How can I see my Cupla calendar in my Google calendar? and How can I see my Cupla calendar on my Apple iCal?

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For each calendar you sync, decide whether your partner sees full event details or just that you're busy. Useful for work calendars or anything you'd prefer to keep private.

See How do I change my events from displaying to my partner as busy?

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Tell Cupla which calendars belong to you, which to your partner, and which are shared. This is what makes the side-by-side view work properly.

See Assigning a calendar to Me, My Partner, or Us

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Add public holidays for your country so you can see them alongside your schedule.

See How do I add a public holiday calendar?

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If you have regular work hours, Cupla can shade them on your calendar so your partner can see when you're typically working.

See How do I set up my work hours?

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Adding your birthday helps Cupla support your partner with reminders, and a profile image makes the app feel more personal.

See How do I update my birthday? and How do I change my profile image?

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Pick a colour each for You, Me, and Us. Your colour choices are personal to your device, so you and your partner can each pick a scheme you prefer.

See How do I customize the colors in Cupla?

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Tags let you label and colour-code events, to-dos, and list items beyond the You/Me/Us colours — for example for a child, a pet, work, or a project. Tags are shared between you and your partner.

See How do I use tags?

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Choose the calendar view Cupla opens to by default — for example, day, schedule, or month. Go to More > Personalization > Home Screen > Launch Screen and select your preferred view.

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Cupla's home screen has shortcuts to your most-used features. You can customise which shortcuts appear, so the things you use most are always one tap away. Go to More > Personalization > Home Screen > Shortcuts to choose your shortcuts.

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Choose which notifications you want to receive. Spending a minute on this early saves notification fatigue later.

See How do I choose what notifications I want to receive?

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Add anniversaries, birthdays, trips, and other milestones so they show up as countdowns on your home screen. Your anniversary is a great one to add first.

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Use the Date Planner to set a Date Frequency Goal (for example, once a week or once a fortnight). Cupla will track your dates and nudge you when it's been a while.

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There's no better way to start using Cupla than putting your first shared date on the calendar. Tag it as a date so it counts towards your Date Frequency Goal.

See How do I create a shared event or date?

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Set up a Wishlist for the things you want to do, try, or buy together — a future trip, restaurants to try, or gift ideas. You can also add items directly from TikTok, Instagram, or the web.

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Put a Cupla widget on your phone's home screen so you can see your schedule, to-dos, grocery list, or countdowns at a glance.

See What widgets are available in Cupla? and How to add a Cupla widget on your iPhone?

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Cupla for Desktop is great for weekly planning sessions, longer browsing, or working from a laptop. Sign in at cupla.app/web using the same details you use on mobile.

See What is Cupla for Desktop?

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Ask Cupla AI to plan a date, find free time in your schedules, or brain dump a stream of thoughts. Currently available on iOS.

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Beyond the set-up itself, these habits help couples get the most out of Cupla over time:

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If you have any questions as you work through this checklist, message our support team at [email protected].